written by Mary Ayala

David is a fascinating character study for all of his contradictions. He was described as “a man after his (the LORD’s) own heart” (I Samuel 13.13), and as a man “who enjoyed God’s favor” (Acts 7:46). And yet, he committed adultery, plotted a murder, and struggled with rebellious sons. This just doesn’t sound like someone that should enjoy any kind of favored relationship with the Father. I can only conclude that I still have a lot to learn about what matters to God. Take this whole issue of how we respond to how others treat us. We might do a good job of restraining ourselves from any overtly vengeful acts on those we perceive have wronged us, but we certainly don’t routinely extend grace to them. Consider David’s behavior, however. Saul had been pursuing him as an outlaw and a threat to his throne. Yet, when David receives news of Saul’s death, he laments the event and insists that all the men of Judah join in the eulogy. The lament begins and ends with the now familiar phrase, “How the mighty have fallen!” David describes Saul and his son Jonathan as “loved and gracious,” “swifter than eagles,” and “stronger than lions.” David could have pointed out Saul’s failures, his inconsistencies, and his loss of God’s favor. Instead, he acknowledged Saul’s battle worthiness and courage. So, I keep coming back to this question: What distinguishes David from Saul? In my readings this week, I have come to the conclusion that David never failed to recognize God as his source of strength and direction. He seemed to be aware of God in the midst of every circumstance. This is the kind of relationship I’m seeking with the Father. I don’t want to act and react and then consider what would have pleased God. I want to live in such intimate fellowship with the Father that my attitudes and actions all flow from a Spirit-led abundance.

Let me not overlook David’s mention of Saul’s son, Jonathan. Jonathan had to juggle loyalty to his father with his special bond with David. David and Jonathan are frequently referenced as an example of the deepest kind of friendship. As I think about my friendships, I’m challenged to invest more time and energy in these relationships. God grows me through my fellowship with Him but also in community with others.

Your Fellow Traveler,

Mary